It’s always hard for me to come back to Kentucky. It isn’t because I don’t love my family, but it is because of all the bad things that have happened here. Don’t get me wrong, I love my home state and have so much pride for it, but even my love doesn’t erase the bad memories I have here.
About three years ago, I had family hurt me in ways I never thought would happen. They chose to cast me as the bad guy and blacklist me. They chose to treat me wrong. The worst part, it all happened in church. Have you been there?
I easily became very bitter and I’d be lying if I said I wasn’t still bitter today. There are days where I just want to tell them a piece of my mind, but I know that isn’t the Christ like thing to do. It is hard to be Christ like when others are not being Christ like in return.
No matter what, our actions towards others should always point back to Jesus.
Romans 5:3-5 says, “And not only so, but we glory in tribulations also: knowing that tribulation worketh patience;” “And patience, experience; and experience, hope:” “And hope maketh not ashamed; because the love of God is shed abroad in our hearts by the Holy Ghost which is given unto us.”
These scriptures teach us to be full of praise during the trials we face. They teach us to have patience and to rely on God to fix the problem. They teach us to not be ashamed for what has happened to us, but to look to God for His love covers us. We learn from these scriptures to be so full of God that we don’t have time to be anything other than patient and full of praise.
It’s hard to live by those scriptures when family continues to hurt you. It is easier to just be angry and bitter towards them. In our flesh, we just want to give way to hatred. In our spirit, we just want to give way to love and everything that embodies Christ.
It’s funny that I’m even being open about my family and church hurts because for the longest time, I was scared to tell my story. I was told to be quiet about it and to not let anyone know. I’ve learned that I don’t have to be silent about my tribulations or experiences because they are my stories and my testimonies. We are supposed to share our testimonies with others, so that someone else going through the same thing can know they will make it through.
Testimonies give praise to God for what He has brought you through.
Genesis 50:20 says, “But as for you, ye thought evil against me; but God meant it unto good, to bring to pass, as it is this day, to save much people alive.”
When bad things happen to you or someone does you wrong, always remember that God will turn those experiences into something good. It has been three years for me and the issues continue to build on one another, but I know one day God is going to bring the goodness to light.
Family will disappoint you at some point because lets face it, we’re all human. When the disappointments come, remember that God is our family too. The God we serve will never disappoint us or hurt us. When the pain seems like too much to bear or you just can’t figure out why they treat you the way they do, look to God to give you hope and peace. The peace and hope will come in God’s time. We have to put all the anger and hurt into God’s hands because it will be Him who fixes the situation.
If you’re struggling today with anger and heartache towards certain individuals, give those feelings to God. Place the pain into God’s hands and let Him do the work that needs to be done. When we take all of our negative feelings and place them into the palms of God’s hands, we will one day see the goodness come out of the situation.