Lets Talk About Porn

Within our society today, pornography seems to be running rampant. People tend to look at porn and believe it isn’t a big deal or a sin to do. They believe as long as they are not touching someone other than their spouse, it is okay to look upon other women and men. But is that really the truth or is that a lie people have fallen prey to?

I know the topic of pornography can become a heated and sensitive debate for many, but today I want to discuss the reasons why pornography should never be allowed into our marriages. I want to discuss what the word of God has to say about pornography. At the end of the day, it is important that our lives and our marriages are pleasing to God.

When we become one with our spouse, we are promising to love and to cherish them for the rest of our lives. When we take our vows to our significant other, we are saying we are both off the market for life. When we watch pornography or our husbands do, it breaks those vows. Pornography allows for lust to enter into our lives and our marriages.

Matthew 5:27-28 says, “Ye have heard that it was said by them of old time, Thou shalt not commit adultery:” “But I say unto you, That whosoever looketh on a woman to lust after her hath committed adultery with her already in his heart.”

These are Jesus’ words that we are to hold close to our hearts daily. Jesus is very clear in telling us that we are to not even look upon a man or woman that is not ours to look upon or else we have committed adultery already. These scriptures tell us that our eyes are only to be used to look upon our spouse, not an attractive man or woman we run into at the gym. Jesus put the act of physical adultery right up there with the act of looking upon someone else who is not ours to have with lust in our hearts. Why is that? He put both acts of adultery right up there together because whatever is in our hearts, it will eventually work its way out to be acted upon.

What is in our hearts will eventually be revealed to the surface of our lives. Will our hearts be full of pureness and holiness or will they be full of sin and worldly lust?

2 Samuel 11:2-5 says, “And it came to pass in an eveningtide, that David arose from off his bed, and walked upon the roof of the king’s house: and from the roof he saw a woman washing herself; and the woman was very beautiful to look upon.” “And David sent and enquired after the woman. And one said, Is not this Bath-sheba, the daughter of Eliam, the wife of Uriah the Hittite?” “And David sent messengers, and took her; and she came in unto him, and he lay with her; for she was purified from her uncleanness: and she returned unto her house.” “And the woman conceived, and sent and told David, and said, I am with child.”

My bible commentary says, “After restoring the nation to peace and great military power, David’s personal life becomes entangled in sin. He commits adultery with Bath-sheba and then orders her husband killed in an attempted cover-up. David deeply regretted what he had done and sought God’s forgiveness, but the child of his sinful act died. We may be forgiven by God for our sins, but we will often experience harsh consequences.”

David allowed for temptation to seep into his life. He had a choice to either get off the roof and let Bath-sheba bathe in privacy or to continue watching her. We all know that David chose to stay on the roof and watch Bath-sheba as she bathed. I believe the devil knew David had a weakness and he played that weakness until David gave into it. How often does the devil come at us with temptation? Is it in the form of an attractive man or woman to talk to or is it in the form of images on a computer screen or phone? Do we allow for an innocent friendship to turn into a romance or do we click the links on our computers or phones to look at images this world finds sexy or hot?

To many, looking at or watching porn isn’t a big deal or sin because they are not committing the act of cheating. But is that really the truth? According to the word of God, just looking upon a man or woman that is not your significant other is an act of adultery, which is a sin. God’s word shuts down the arguments that porn is okay to watch and look at.

When we get married, we should be content with who we married. We should look at our husbands or wives as if they are the sexiest, most beautiful human beings on the planet. When we look at our spouses with admiration and thankfulness, we won’t want anyone else this world has to offer. We will love our spouses and their flaws completely, with an unwavering devotion to them only.

I know within the military, we all spend many months within a year completely alone. It can be hard to be alone when you miss your spouse and are desiring them for the night. I know many who are okay with their spouses watching porn, but I don’t think they realize the damage it causes to a marriage.

What are those damages porn causes within a marriage?

  • Porn sets unrealistic expectations for sex
  • Porn is a form of cheating
  • Porn can break a spouses trust
  • Porn promotes the idea that it is okay to look at any other man or woman, as long as you don’t touch them, so where does the line get drawn? Is it okay for your soldier to look at their female battle buddy because they find them hot? Of course it isn’t.
  • Porn causes bigger issues for a marriage (cheating, lusting after others, trust issues, heartache)
  • Porn allows for married men or women to be sexually gratified by others who are not their spouses
  • Porn creates comparisons
  • Porn will destroy your spouses self-esteem
  • Porn will destroy the intimacy you once had in your marriage
  • Porn creates shame
  • Porn will become addictive but will never fully satisfy the individual watching it

James 1:14-15 says, “But every man is tempted, when he is drawn away of his own lust, and enticed.” “Then when lust hath conceived, it bringeth forth sin: and sin, when it is finished, bringeth forth death.”

These scriptures tell us that nothing good will come from sinning. The only thing that sin will ever bring is heartache. We all are tempted according to these scriptures, but it is up to us to turn away from that temptation and look to God for help. Just like David had the choice to either turn away or stay where he was, we too have a choice to make when we are presented with the temptation to sin.

We need to treat our spouses like they are the best thing since sliced bread. We need to love them with such a pureness, that they don’t ever sit back and question our love. We need to be so devoted to them that we don’t ever have time to think about other women or men that are out there. We need to love our spouses and cherish our marriages the way that God loves and cherishes us.

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7 comments

  1. This is a great piece. It blessed me a lot! Thanks Rachel. May I share it?

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    1. Thank you so much! Feel free to share it.

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  2. A great piece with very useful information. Thanks Rachel! May I share it.

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    1. Thank you, Emeka! Yes, you can share it.

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  3. the issue is marriage and the court system are horrible if a guy loses custody he will be forced to pay alimony , child support and have constant custody battles !! in the end the guy loses if the marriage fails to women marriage is safe they will get money even if its fails to guys its scary having a woman holding divorce over your head in threats!! So i really can see how society has made guys enjoy things such a porn more since its safer than risking destroying their life and their bank account !! porn is free alimony and child support aren’t!!

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  4. Great post Rachel. Proud of you for speaking out against porn regardless of gender.

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