My husband hasn’t even been in the Army for a year yet and I am starting to realize how hard it is to make friends as a christian in this lifestyle. I am very open about my faith and the way that I believe and I have noticed many people have a problem with that. Due to people having problems with my beliefs, I only have about two friends back in Fort Hood.
It can become really lonely and discouraging to not really have a good support system. Before moving to Fort Hood, I had the church I grew up in my entire life and godly people who surrounded me daily. It was always comforting to know that I had someone of true faith praying for me. It was also nice to be surrounded by people with the same beliefs because it helped me grow in my relationship with God.
I can honestly say I don’t have that support system anymore. I live in a military town where Jesus isn’t popular and true Christianity is looked down on. I live among people who think it is okay to sin a little bit everyday and when I speak about how the Bible tells us differently, many peoples attitudes towards me change. People tend to call me a Bible thumper or self righteous and to be honest, it used to bother me more than it does now.
I knew when my husband joined the Army that we would have a hard time fitting in because we all know many soldiers and their families like to drink, party, cuss, and smoke. My family doesn’t do those things and we don’t believe as Christians you should be doing those things due to what the word of God says, so we are not very liked. It can be really hard when your husband is deployed and you are states away from your home church and your family. I mean, we all need friends, right?
John 15:18-21 says, “If the world hate you, ye know that it hated me before it hated you.” “If ye were of the world, the world would love his own: but because ye are not of the world, but I have chosen you out of the world, therefore the world hateth you.” “Remember the word that I said unto you, The servant is not greater than his lord. If they have persecuted me, they will also persecute you; if they have kept my saying, they will keep yours also.” “But all these things will they do unto you for my name’s sake, because they know not him that sent me.”
These words came from Jesus Himself. I take comfort in these scriptures because it reminds me that Jesus was hated and because He was hated, if I am living my life according to Christ, I will be hated as well. Maybe to some that is crazy, but to me, it is comforting. Jesus would never allow for us to go through anything we cannot handle.
If Jesus allows for me to go through feelings of loneliness, it tells me I can handle it.
If Jesus allows me to not have any friends, it tells me I can handle it.
If Jesus allows me to be persecuted by those who don’t know Him, it tells me I can handle it.
When we live for God, we will stand out from the world. If we say we are Christians, something about us must be different from the world. We must stand out from the world around us even though we are living within it. Jesus stood out because He was full of righteousness and in the same way, we must be full of righteousness to the point that we stand out from everyone around us.
The older I’ve gotten, the more I’ve realized I’d rather be alone or have one good friend than a bunch of friends who do not respect my beliefs or lifestyle. When we allow people into our lives, they should be good influences, not bad influences. Jesus is the greatest friend we will ever have in our lifetime. Jesus is a friend who will always be there for us and correct us when we are wrong. Jesus is greater than any earthly friend we could ever have.
If you are struggling today with finding like-minded friends, don’t get discouraged. Go to prayer and ask God to send the right people into your life. In God’s time, the right people will be there for you. If you are facing persecution for your beliefs, take comfort in the fact that you are doing something right for the Lord to be experiencing such hatred. Lift your eyes up towards heaven and keep your hearts on God.
When we put our hearts on God, the fiery darts thrown at us will not keep us down. When we look to heaven, our minds and eyes will always be focused on the goodness that awaits us if we will just hold on to the end.