I met my husband almost three years ago while we were both working at church camp. My husband was over the music program and I was a counselor in training for the tween girls age division. I didn’t go to work church camp with the thought that I would meet the love of my life there. I honestly didn’t expect to meet a godly man that would ever be interested in me due to my past. Boy, how wrong I was!
I remember truly seeing my husband for the first time during the youth service one night. He was playing the keyboard and seeing a song called, “The Well” by Casting Crowns. I remember seeing how in love with God he was and I thought it was the most attractive thing I’d ever seen. My husband poured his heart and soul into the worship and it clearly showed. The Holy Ghost began to move during the service and I will never forget the Lord speaking to me and saying, “Your one is here, my child.”
I thought to myself, “My one is here? There is no way anyone would be interested in me. I’m going crazy!” But then the Lord spoke to me again and said, “Your one is here, my child.” I couldn’t shake those few simple words anymore because I knew the Lord wouldn’t lie to me, so I had no other choice but to accept it and believe it. Little did I know that my soulmate was the handsome worship leader.
Sometimes life has a funny way of working things out for your good. I truly did fall in love at first sight with my husband. I thought I was going crazy if you want me to be honest. I mean, I was one of those young women who thought love at first sight was stupid and impossible. God on the other hand chose to prove me wrong and I’m so glad He did.
We dated for three months before my husband proposed to me. To a lot of people that is just crazy, but we just knew we were it for each other. We were married before our first year anniversary of dating. Crazy, right? But honestly, I can say I married the man God wanted me to marry since I was a little girl. Don’t get me wrong, there have been plenty of ups and downs in our first two years of marriage, but I really wouldn’t want to spend my life with anyone else.
Ecclesiastes 4:12 says, “And if one prevail against him, two shall withstand him; and a threefold cord is not quickly broken.”
This scripture tells us that our marriage is better when we have God in the middle of it. It tells us that we need God within our marriages because God helps our love to grow stronger. It is because of God that we are able to handle conflict better, able to pray out our differences instead of screaming and yelling at each other. It is because of God that our marriages can be full of joy even when the devil is trying to throw darkness into our lives.
We can either choose to allow God to be the center of our marriages or we can allow the devil to come in and destroy it slowly.
My husband and I are still learning how to live with each other and learning about each other everyday. We haven’t been married for very long, so we still have a long way to go. I’d be lying if I said my marriage hasn’t had any problems because I serve God. To be honest, I think our marriage has faced more hardships than joyful days because we lost sight of God along the way. We stopped putting Him in the center of our lives and our marriage and we can tell the difference in our relationship because of that.
When my husband joined the Army, I wasn’t particularly thrilled about the idea but I wanted my husband to be happy. But we as military wives know that the military changes our men. The military trains them to put their branch of service first, before anything else. But as a child of God, we are called to put God first before anything and anyone else. Now that can be hard when you are a soldier in the United States military.
Do you see the dilemma?
Colossians 3:18-19 says, “Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as it is fit in the Lord.” “Husbands, love your wives, and be not bitter against them.”
Yeah, who really likes hearing the word submissive? I know there are times I honestly hate hearing it because so many people take it out of context. Being submissive to your husband doesn’t mean that you are to be treated like a slave and bossed around everyday. It means to be respectful of our husbands wishes, even if it may be hard at times. But here is the kicker ladies, husbands are to love their wives the way that Christ loves the church. So being submissive goes both ways.
Ephesians 5:25 says, “Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it;”
Ephesians 5:28-29 says, “So ought men to love their wives as their own bodies. He that loveth his wife loveth himself.” “For no man ever yet hated his own flesh; but nourisheth and cherisheth it, even as the Lord the church:”
These scriptures tell us that our husbands are to love us the way Christ loves the church. That means that our husbands are supposed to love us unconditionally and wholly. That can be hard to do when we’re being hateful to them or we’re in a fight, but they are still called to love us above all else. How can us as husbands and wives truly love each other if we don’t love Christ above all else? How can we truly be there for one another if we are not putting Christ above ourselves, our marriages, and the conflicts that life throws our way? We can’t and we won’t.
It is hard being a military wife whose a Christian, but it is an even harder thing for our spouses to be Christians while serving their country. It can be easy for them to fall into temptation, to change their attitudes, and to change their characters all so they can fit in with their battle buddies. I’ve seen it first hand in my marriage and it is a hard thing to watch. But as godly wives, we must pray for our spouses and believe that God is going to help them stay on the right path or lead them back to where they need to be.
Within my own marriage, I’ve noticed a difference in how mine and my husbands relationship is when we focus on God. When we aren’t focusing on God like we should be doing, I see the devil at play within our marriage and within ourselves and that can be hard to swallow. But you see, if you and your husband are not putting God in the center of your marriage, there are going to be more problems than there will be good days.
God requires all of us to put Him first and to serve Him above all else. As husband and wife, we are called to place God in the center of our marriage as we work together to draw closer to Him. As we draw closer to God together, the stronger our marriage, our friendship, and our love will become.
God desires for our marriages to flourish and bloom into beautiful relationships until the day we get called home to be with the Lord. We must be willing to bloom together for the Lord no matter what our occupations are or who we must be surrounded by daily. It takes real dedication and effort on our part to make sure we are drawing closer to God each day with our spouse.
Even if your husband is deployed, you can still study the Bible together, pray together, read certain scriptures a day, and uplift one another through the word of God. It may be hard, but it isn’t impossible.
Our marriages are worth fighting for. We must be prayed up and studied up when the conflicts come and the fiery darts of the enemy are being shot at our marriages. With God in the middle of our marriages, nothing can prevail against them.